Last week I attended the TMRW TDAY Culture Fest in Jamaica where I was invited to share a 15-minute talk. I wanted to use this time to share some valuable information that I’ve learned along my personal transformational journey that would help others to “live their best life”
I’m happy to say it was very well received and several guests told me that it resonated with them. I’ve had a few people reach out to ask if it was recorded and if I could share it with them. Unfortunately, it wasn’t so I’ve decided to share the notes from my talk with the intention that this information will continue to help others.
I’d like to say a big thank you to Andrew and Stacy from TMRW TDAY for creating such a special event. If you’d like to learn more about the festival visit www.tmrwtday.com
TMRW TDAY Talk
What does “living your best life” mean to you? Is it traveling around the world, finding your soulmate and getting married, having a successful career, or is it living a life of fulfillment?
Everyone has their own version of what living their best life means to them.
I’d like to know who here feels that they are living their best life?
Who would like to live their best life?
I’m happy to say that I’m currently living my best life. I live in Costa Rica, in a small beach town called Nosara. I start my days with early morning beach walks with my dog. I work where I want when I want with who I want. I can honestly say that I have my dream job, I own a transformational travel company where I get to host people on amazing trips around the world and teach them about wellness, adventure, connection, and self-development.
It sounds pretty awesome right. I have to admit that it is and many friends who know me say I’m living the dream, however, I had to wake up and create this life for myself.
What I’d like to share with you today is what I have learned over the past 5 years and how I was able to create a new lifestyle and career for myself and walk away from the things that were holding me back so I can truly live my best life.
Before I share this with you, I’d like to tell you about how this journey started for me.
I’m an entrepreneur from Toronto, and over the past 20 years, I have opened over 12 successful businesses. Restaurants, bars, nightclubs, a spa, hair salon, music festivals… I’ve lived a fascinating, dynamic, luxurious life and many would tell me that I was living “the life” then. Fancy cars, famous friends, beautiful women…
However, despite all of my superficial success, I woke up on August 17, 2015, my 40th birthday and faced the harsh reality that I was not where I wanted to be personally, professionally or financially.
See I thought by 40 I’d be married with kids, and I was still single, no girlfriend and never been in love.
By 40 I thought I would be out of the nightlife business and doing something more fulfilling. I didn’t love my career anymore and felt stuck and didn’t know what else to do.
By 40 I thought I would be well on my way to financial freedom, but I was hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt. No matter how much money I made, I always spent more than I was earning.
So on that day, I knew that I had to change things up if I wanted to create different results for my life. I made a commitment to myself that by 45 I will not be in the same place, feeling the same way.
So began my journey of self-discovery and self-development.
I consider myself an authority on transformation because I have done a full 180-degree shift in my life professionally, mentally, physically, energetically, spiritually and even geographically.
I’ve spent the past 5 years learning from some of the most brilliant minds, attending courses, forums, and summits. Like workshops that Peter Oppermann leads.
It’s vital for me to share what I’ve learned because I believe that you are here at TMRW TDAY to learn, grow and expand. I know some of you are going through your own transformation and are looking for answers to the questions you have.
My intention to share this with you is what I’ve learned along my journey because I believe it can help you manifest your best life.
I was at the Archangel event in Toronto last year, and I heard the modern day guru Dandapani shared something so simple yet profound that I wish I had learned this sooner.
He shared how to create the life of your dreams, and it resonated with me so profoundly because the process he explained is precisely the journey that I have been on
Dandapani broke it down in a 4 step process and hope that you also benefit from these simple yet powerful lessons.
These are 4 critical steps to manifesting your best life:
Purpose – What does Purpose mean to you? One’s Purpose is a personal thing, and everyone has their own interpretation of what defines Purpose to them. There is no right or wrong answer.
What Purpose means to me is having a cause or a goal that you genuinely believe in and stand for. Having something important to you, that’s bigger than just you. Tapping into your Purpose and living in alignment with what you stand for gives you a tremendous amount of fulfillment. It also gives you direction and boundaries.
If you’re in a place where you may not yet know what your Purpose is, I invite you to start thinking about what impact do you want to make in the world, what change would you like to happen and how can you support that change.
When I discovered my Purpose of sharing my journey with other people that I can help them find out what’s possible for their lives, my priorities in life completed shifted.
When you are living on Purpose you are living intentionally, you are working towards a goal that is personally significant and rewarding. Living and being from this context is a game changer and is the first step to living your best life.
Now once you have discovered your Purpose or are on the path of creating this for yourself, step 2 is crucial.
Focus – Energy flows where attention goes.
If you want to manifest your best life, you must be fully committed and focused on your goal. You have to wake up thinking about it and when you fall asleep, dream about it.
When you begin your path of Purpose, you need to continually check yourself to make sure you are making decisions that are aligned with that vision you have for your life. An idea without a plan is just a dream. Maintaining this focus will be the key to achieving the results you want for your life.
There are so many distractions life that we waste our time on. We all have the same 24 hours in the day, it’s up to you to use these hours to create what you wish to achieve.
It is imperative that you cut out the unnecessary things in your life so you can optimize your focus on the things that support your Purpose and the life you want to create. What you can do to increase your focus is Simplify.
Simplify your life is step #3
You have to cut the distractions out of your life. Get rid of the things that do not serve that higher Purpose that you are committed to.
Take a look at your life and ask yourself what is no longer necessary, what can I get rid of to make my life less complicated.
For me, part of it was getting rid of my luxury car and my designer clothing. When I took a hard look at my life and where I was spending the most money, I realized that some of my most significant expenses weren’t important to me anymore. Because I’m committed to something bigger than my image and ego, I was able to let go of the things that didn’t support what I am creating for my life.
Now I know some of you may think that’s a crazy idea, I know many of my friends did, but I have to tell you that it feels so good to have so much less stuff to worry about anymore.
The ironic part about all these things we purchase and collect is the objects we own end up owning us. When you can let go of the items that actually are useless to you, you will have more time, mental energy and money to focus on what’s really important.
I can personally share that I have never felt so free, fulfilled and happy in my life and I own less than I ever have before.
Now simplifying and letting go of things can be very hard. Because some of these things really mean a lot to our present identity and this is where the 4th and final step is required.
Sacrifice – Now, this last step is the hardest because it is going to require you to make some tough decisions in your life.
There are things in your life right now that you believe to be very important. And some of these things are actually in the way of you living your best life.
It could be your career, your friends and even where you live. For me, it was all 3 of these.
See when I realized that my Purpose is to inspire, educate and empower people to live truly fulfilled lives, and I chose to make this my top priority, I had to make some significant changes in my life.
I knew that I couldn’t own the companies I did and focus 100% on my transformational travel company, so I chose to close down my restaurant Blowfish after 15 years and walk away from $1 million of my own money. I also said no to some new business ventures so I can say yes to what was aligned with the life I want to live.
I also chose to start spending time with people who inspired me that I could learn from and let go of my friendships with the people in my life who are living at a low vibration. Sometimes we outgrow certain people and these relationships, and it’s okay to let go and move on.
I also knew that to create what I want for myself and others that I need to live in an environment where I felt like my best self, so I left my hometown of Toronto to live in Costa Rica where I can be surrounded by nature and high vibrational humans who support me in what I’m creating.
These were not easy choices, and it was painful at times, but the outcome has all been so worth it.
So what is it that you will need to sacrifice, give up, walk away from? Maybe you know the answer already but have been holding on out of loyalty or fear of what might happen if you let go.
If you are fully committed to what you want to create for your life, just trust that now is the time to let go of what doesn’t serve you any longer.
Purpose, focus, simplify and sacrifice. This process may take years to implement, and it will be hard as hell, and the reward is you will enjoy the rest of your life as your absolute best years in life.
Now you may be thinking, that this sounds like a lot of hard work. Why do I really want to live my best life? My life may not be the best, it’s pretty okay.
I don’t know about you, but I definitely don’t want to live an ordinary life. “Living my okay life” sounds like a lame hashtag if you ask me.
Why is it important to live your best life?
Living your best life isn’t just about your own life. It means being the best version of yourself, so you can be happy and ALIVE and be a contribution to others to help them rise up.
It’s important to live your best life because I believe that the more people who are living their best lives means we have, the higher chance to have the best Earth for all of us.
I believe that this is our collective Purpose, to help our fellow humans, our beautiful animals, and our planet.
I hope what I have shared has been valuable to you, and you have learned something that will help you on your journey to living your best life.
If any of you have any questions about my journey or would like to know more about the trips I run with the ALIVE Experience I would be more than happy to answer any questions that you may have.